You may have been thinking about counselling for weeks—or quietly considering it for years.

Perhaps your mind never really switches off. Maybe the same relationship patterns keep repeating, or you feel anxious, overwhelmed, disconnected or simply unlike yourself.

You don’t need to have everything worked out before contacting a counsellor. Knowing that something isn’t working is enough.

1. Find a counsellor who feels relevant to you

Training and professional registration matter, but therapy is also about the relationship.

Read the counsellor’s website and ask yourself:

• Do I feel understood by the way they write?

• Do they have experience with what I’m going through?

• Could I imagine speaking honestly with this person?

For example, you might be looking for someone who understands trauma, anxiety, ADHD, intrusive thoughts, sexuality, unconventional relationships or the experience of feeling like an outsider.

You don’t need to find the “perfect” therapist. You are looking for someone who appears qualified, trustworthy and capable of meeting you without judgement.

2. Book an initial consultation

I offer a free online consultation before you commit to regular counselling.

This is an informal conversation where you can tell me a little about what is happening and ask questions about how I work. We can consider whether my approach might suit you and whether online counselling is appropriate for your circumstances.

You don’t need to prepare a speech.

You could simply begin with:

“I’ve been struggling with anxiety and I’m not sure what kind of help I need.”

Or:

“I keep repeating the same patterns, even though I understand that they’re hurting me.”

That is more than enough to begin.

3. Agree on the practical details

Before starting, we will discuss matters such as:

• the length and frequency of sessions

• fees and cancellations

• confidentiality and its limits

• how your personal information is handled

• what we will do if the internet connection fails

• whether online counselling is the right and safest option for you

Online sessions require a reliable internet connection and a private space where you can speak without being overheard. Headphones can help, but they are not essential.

4. Attend your first session

You can join from your computer, tablet or phone, although a stable device with a larger screen is usually more comfortable.

The first session is not an exam, and you will not be expected to reveal everything immediately. We can move at a pace that feels manageable.

Some people arrive knowing exactly what they want to explore. Others only know that they feel stuck, exhausted or disconnected.

Both are valid starting points.

Ready to take the first step?

Booking counselling does not mean that you are broken. It means that a part of you recognises that something deserves attention.

You can book a free online consultation with me to talk about what is bringing you to therapy and see how it feels to speak together.

Book your free consultation

experiences are not random. They usually follow an internal logic that becomes clearer once we slow down and look closely.

My work integrates several therapeutic approaches that help bring that clarity.